“Coffee Break: Do you believe in Love at First Sight?”

Coffee Break

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While minding my own business, my youngest sister sat beside me out of nowhere and demanded if she could ask me a question. Without looking at her I just said, “Yeah?”, She then proceeded with her query , “Do you believe in love at first sight?”, I looked at her and said “No!”. She stood up and said “Exactly!” while walking away.

My sister is back at the kitchen making her favorite crepe but her question is still on my mind. I asked myself,

“Do I believe in love at first sight?”

My answer remains the same, No! I believe however that attraction at first sight is absolutely believable but love?… it’s just not possible. I say this because I believe that love is a process, you cannot just love someone you don’t know. You have to discover that person’s personality first which may take some time and then you have to whole heartedly accept their good and bad sides without question. Once you are at that stage where you already accepted that person’s whole being, you should also have a good level of trust to that person and then comes love.

For me, love is something that is not earned or felt over night. You have to go through a few stages first before concluding that you love a person. Let’s be real, if we meet someone the very first thing we notice about them is their appearance, how they dress, how they carry themselves or even their talents then we feel drawn to them and even goes to a point where we really want to know them but this does not mean you’re in love to that person right away because you cannot love a person solely because of what your eyes saw, the right term for this is attraction but never love.

Love is such a strong word and often times mistakenly identified and this is why a lot of relationships fail because of the wrong notion that they’re in love but the truth is they’re just attracted to each other. Once they learn more about the other person, they’ll realize that this is not the person that they signed up for and so they’ll leave. Love for me is developed over time, once you go through a few hardships, arguments and trials together and realized that you still want to be with that person, that is love. Once you get to know that person better and accepted their whole personality including their past mistakes without questions, that is love. If you are ready and willing to face more challenges with that person, that is love. If you are willing to sacrifice what you have for that person, that is love. If you can honestly want to spend your present and future with that person, that is love.

I am guilty of mistaking attraction as love and maybe that’s why my previous relationships never really worked because over time, attraction withers but love mostly won’t. These mistakes however helped me to learn more about love, the kind that is real and pure. I realized, that I never truly loved before since I have never met someone who I can see my future with and who I can fully trust. I haven’t met someone who could make me feel that I am ready to compromise or one that I can fully open myself with without the fear of being rejected.

Again, love is something that is developed over time and is not acquired in just a blink of an eye. Love takes time and that is a reality.

Do you believe in love at first sight?

Much love,

Arlene Kischaen Aboli

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  • belladona26
    September 11, 2017 at 1:28 AM

    I agree with you girl! Love does take time and sacrifice and you can’t have that with just a first sight! Greatly written ?

  • jfwknifton
    September 11, 2017 at 7:10 AM

    You and your sister are both right. Love has to be worked at.

  • Joy The Witch
    September 11, 2017 at 11:26 AM

    I totally agree with you!!

  • Paul
    September 12, 2017 at 12:38 PM

    I absolutely agree Love doesn’t happen at “first sight.” I think when we “see” someone, usually someone VERY attractive to us, we are naturally drawn to that person. It may be because the person is simply so damned good looking we immediately start fantasizing about…well everything!

    But Love, you are so right, comes out of being together, learning each other’s ways and caring for each other in spite of faults or interestingly enough, because of those faults. Love has to grow and that takes time and patience.

    Great post! 🙂

  • presh
    September 13, 2017 at 4:49 AM

    love at first sight!!!! that’s law of attraction. love is worked hard for. i mean take time to know someone if they are compatible.

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